Do you ever realize that Online profiles begin with the word “I”? Even though you are the one who is longing for true love, the online dating process really should not be about you.

Chaszey says: “Internet Dating or Dating in general is not about you, it’s about the other person, it’s about Compound Interest. It’s about Paying It Forward.”

“Paying WHAT forward??” you may ask.

Think about it. There are more than 10 million Daters registered with Internet Dating sites paying over $2 billion dollar »”>billion dollars per year in the hopes of finding true love. If everyone is looking for just that one person, the likelihood that we spend most of our time rejecting others and being rejected ourselves is a given. In other words, once your sizzling profile is public, all you can focus on is weeding through the hundreds or even thousands of men and women that flood towards you.

Until your true love has found you, try earning some karma browny points by responding to those you’re not interested in with grace. Because that most likely what you’ll spend most of your time with when you embark on the wild world of Online Dating.

Chaszey says: “Whatever we give out comes back to us tenfold. What people forget is that while people should earn our trust, no one should have to earn our respect and our kindness. Each and every person deserves these free gifts from us, for the simple fact that we are fellow humans living on the same planet, enjoying the same sunlight and walking fairly similar journeys called life. And let’s recognize that everyone is looking for the exact same thing: Unconditional Love.”

It may take some time and willingness to send rejection e-mails to potential partners that show your effort, are filled with grace and show your kindness. Chaszey says: “Don’t underestimate how much your kind words are worth to the recipient. Not only may you mend a broken heart, but you will gain karma points that are subjected to compound interest on a whole new level. Your life can only change for the better. Maybe hard to explain, but worth the try.”

These karma points serve like a bonus to help you build a new character and create a stronger and kinder you so you can bring into your experience the person you truly deserve.

So before you hit that pre-programmed “thanks but no thanks” button, take a few minutes and read the other person’s profile anyway, and send them a response that is filled with your kindness, not because they deserve it, but because that’s who you are.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.