Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst enemy.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I bet it is not about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”

It was probably something like “good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s a LIE!

Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.